The Skewed Reality of Family & Faith

“Charles sat quietly while I talked and didn’t say anything for a long time after. Then he said, “Are you angry that your parents didn’t put you in school?” “It was an advantage!” I said, half-shouting. My response was instinctive. It was like hearing a phrase from a catchy song: I couldn’t stop myself from … Continue reading The Skewed Reality of Family & Faith

White Women, We Need To Do Better

Friends, can we talk about that John Macarthur clip for a moment? I feel like we’ve done a great job covering the sexism, which was the main rant in the clip. But keep listening. There was something else being said. Jonny Mac spends a good deal of time talking about how feminists are not looking … Continue reading White Women, We Need To Do Better

Therapy Is Always A Good Choice

In honour of National Mental Health Day, I thought today might be a good one to talk a little bit about my journey with therapy. I grew up in a family and a faith system where psychology was eyed with great suspicion. I’d heard all the usual fundamentalist anxiety about Jung’s heretical beliefs, and Freud’s … Continue reading Therapy Is Always A Good Choice

Reconciliation Is Not Always the Answer

A relationship between two people is meant to be a two-way street. Both people are supposed to be invested in making it work. Both people need to be willing to compromise and work with the other person to maintain a healthy relationship where the needs of both are being met. This is true of all … Continue reading Reconciliation Is Not Always the Answer

When Childhood Shame Lingers

    I felt deep shame. My body shut down. I couldn’t speak. I couldn’t react. All I knew was that I needed to get away from him as quickly as possible. I excused myself by saying I needed to go sit in the backyard, but he was concerned and so he came to talk … Continue reading When Childhood Shame Lingers

Eshet Chayil

I began to write this poem after watching the funeral of Rachel Held Evans. I listened to her friends and family describe her as a woman who always asked the hard questions, always loved, always gave of herself when she could. I couldn't stop thinking to myself, "They are talking about a woman who was … Continue reading Eshet Chayil

May Reads

Another month has gone by, and more books have been poured into my brain. There were several hits, several mehs. And I'm now 7 books closer to hitting my goal for the year. The Death of Mrs. Westaway by Ruth Ware (Finished May 3) This was an interesting throwback to the likes of Agatha Christie … Continue reading May Reads